COMMITMENT ISSUES

 Genesis 2:24 Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
Ladies, it has come to my attention, through multiple relationships, that you have issues that you refuse to acknowledge. What makes you think a man wants to be with someone who constantly accuses them of wrong doing when there has never been any reason to doubt them.  Do you know the definition of insecure?  Insecure (1) Not sure or certain; doubtful.  You are quick to say you're not insecure, but if you have doubts about anything then that is EXACTLY what you are.  If you are so busy accusing then what are you doing to make a relationship work.  To be completely involved means giving 100% from the beginning... not 33% here 33% here and 34% here.  Women, no man wants to be an option... I mean after all do you wanna be an option?  I live by one rule when it comes to a relationship... Don't do ANYTHING you wouldn't want me to do.  If you are out there doing wrong that doesn't mean he is doing the same.  When you are out there you start imagining him doing what you are doing so you now turn it into transference of guilt which is the basis of an instant argument where nothing is going to go your way.  What you do then is set the grounds for a relationship implosion or explosion depending on the man involved.  In short keep my simple philosophy in mind, and ask yourself "What would I do if I caught him doing this shit" when you're out there clubbing and bar hopping or striking a conversation while in the grocery store...

The easiest way to solve a problem is to deal with not run from every time it comes up because then it turns into a deeper issue.  Why are people so afraid to acknowledge their faults, but quick to point out others?  Matthew 7:5 You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye.  I know you are thinking if I am saying all this then am I not a hypocrite... the answer is no because I DO face my faults, and work to improve them... hence the reason I can post this.  I am the trench coat over the puddle in the street... I am here to help you avoid my mistakes.  If you take the time to read and listen to my words you will be improving yourself, but if you take my words for just words then you have done an injustice to yourself.

For a relationship to be balanced you must give what you want.  You want trust you must be able to trust, and be trustworthy.  If you want respect you give respect.  If you want love you must love.  You cannot ask for things you WILL not do in return because all you are doing is being a walking issue.  How long do you think your significant other is going to be around or put up with that bullshit?

By the way this is for the men as well... keep fucking shit up for the rest of us, and we good guys are gonna find you and bury you alive.  IJS!!

"REAL" Men vs. Real "WOMEN" Pt.2

Now I don't want anyone to get the impression I am bashing women because this should be considered a PSA (Public Service Announcement) and nothing less.  See guys are always saying they want a down ass "bitch", and at the same time women themselves are constantly calling themselves a "Bitch".  So let's define the word... Bitch (1) Word used to describe the act of whining excessively. (2) Modern-day servant; A person who performs tasks for another, usually degrading in status. (3) A female dog. Seriously, this is how females see themselves, and men say they want?  Males have no idea what they want either, but that is because most guys are not thinking about the future, but the right now.  Females think of the future, but unfortunately only look at the right now as well.  In short what we get is short term relationships with the wrong people that turns everyone bitter down the long run.  Guys need to stop trying to impress the wrong people, and start being men... men that people respect and respect for the right reasons.

"REAL" Men vs. Real "WOMEN"

It has come to my attention that the same question is always being asked by females.. "Where are all the real men?"  It is my belief that they are where they always have been... right in front of you.  The problem that exist is that "women" say there are no "REAL" men out there, but I have come to realize that females have a problem with getting out of their own damn way to see them.  "REAL" men step to you all the time, but since you are not really looking for a real man you don't see them.  I hear females talking how they need a real "nigga" in they life, and complain when they get a REAL NIGGA in they life.  You get exactly what you ask for as it is said in the Bible... you speak into fruition exactly what you want.  I have to explain time and time again that I am not a NIGGAH, but a REAL MAN however since I don't run the streets, chasin' pappa, or spend my nights wit the boyz, or simply doing the thing niggas do then I am not worth noticing.  We won't mention that I have job (15 years, and running), my own place (not living with my momma or ex), 2 cars titled in my name, no children running around wondering where I am, no felonies haunting me, or completely tatted... you know the things that make for a "REAL" man then that makes me invisible to radar.

Now "women" is used in quotations because females have no idea what the hell that word means.  It isn't about your sex, but your mentality.  A woman thinks like a woman, and knows the difference.  I woman understands what giving what you get means.  I woman understands value, and this is not the value of a dolla, but the value of a "REAL" man and vice versa.  Women understand what the word TRUST really entails along with RESPECT and HONESTY, OPEN COMMUNICATION, and COMPROMISE.  There is nothing more annoying and relationship deconstructing than an insecure female that doesn't realize that she is insecure for if she TRUSTED then she would have no reason to be insecure.  The unfortunate cause of most insecurities comes from guilt transference which is the guilt of doing wrong and putting it on someone else to ease your conscience. 

This is just the beginning so stay tuned because there is definitely more to come.